How to Perform Bondage Properly

Bondage 101: What does BDSM mean and How to Perform Bondage Properly


Let’s get real here – we’ve all heard of bondage, sadomasochism and BDSM in general. There’s no point in denying it, because if you’ve ever visited a porn site in your life (and you certainly did), you have seen and maybe even watched some of this stuff. That doesn’t mean, however, that you can easily answer the “what does BDSM mean” question, does it?

This is why we’ve decided to do our own quick course in BDSM with a special accent on bondage. You can call it BDSM for beginners, because the best way to enter this latex and leather packed world is probably through bondage. Without further delay, let’s begin.

The Definition

Contrary to popular belief, BDSM isn’t an acronym in and of itself. It’s actually a combination of multiple acronyms that represent a multitude of sexual preferences which ultimately make up the sexual phenomenon that is BDSM.

It’s comprised of BD, which stands for bondage and discipline, DS, which represents domination and submission, and finally SM, which is short for sadism and masochism, or simply sadomasochism.

Although each and every specific sexual preference in this list is very similar to the rest and they all involve some sort of punishment in the goal of achieving sexual pleasure, they are still different from each other either by a shade or by a mile.

For example, people often mix up discipline and domination because they are very much alike. Discipline mostly involves verbal abuse like scolding and giving orders, while domination takes it to the next level and incorporates both physical and psychological harm inflicted by one partner.

On the other hand, we have submission and sadism. While submission refers to being someone’s sex slave and obeying their every word, a sadist is a person who likes to cause immense physical pain and sometimes temporary physical trauma for his or her own sexual stimulation.

Bondage Meaning and Learning the Ropes

Bondage is by far one of the most well-known aspects of BDSM. It originates from ancient civilizations’ torture methods, but is nowadays also the most popular sexual activity for BDSM enthusiasts.

By definition, bondage is the practice where one partner ties, restrains, and binds the other for erotic purposes. The name comes from the word “bond,” which refers to all the bonds that can be used in order to perform bondage.

If you think you have to use an obscene amount of rope for a bondage act, you’re wrong. Everything from a simple blindfold and handcuffing the bed to a full-blown hogtie and a monoglove on a St. Andrew’s cross is considered bondage.

First off, it has to be consensual, obviously. Secondly, in order to do bondage properly, you’ll need a lot of preparation and a lot of practice. Thirdly, you need to be very cautious when it comes to physical injury, which can easily happen if the participants of a bondage act don’t know what they’re doing.

The best way to start doing bondage is to begin with simple things. Blindfolds and ordinary rope or tape around the wrists will do, until you feel ready enough to move to more complex things like ballgags, chains, hoods, padlocks and so on.

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