To get over a loving relationship that didn't work is not easy for anyone. It hurts a lot and you feel dejected in life. There are going to be questions in your mind that are still unanswered. Even though the relationship is over, you may still have feelings for your ex. But you seriously want that your first date should know this fact clearly that your previous relationship has ended.

Don't initiate any talks about your ex or to make the matter worse, don't take his/her picture out from your wallet and show it to your date. You will be sending a strong negative vibes to your date that your ex is still very much there in your mind and you are not able to get over it. Take it easy and be patient, may be after a few dates you can break down about your broken relationship over a bottle of beer. Till then just let the new relationship begin with a fresh air.

Try not to use your cell phone when with your date
It is understandable if you make a call to a friend, if you make a couple of calls then may be its an emergency, more than a couple say three, four calls and your date may feel that you don't want to be there in the first place. Do yourself a favor and keep the cell phone on silent mode, you have plenty of time after you date to catch up on the missed calls.

Today we all are quite use to having cell phones as we all are in such an age. But when out on a first date keep things little old-fashioned and let your date feel special by spending uninterrupted quality time with him/her. Else if you keep answering your messages and phone calls of friends simultaneously conversing with your date, you will be using this cell phone for the last time in the near future to plan a second sate.

Don't talk about any therapy or counseling
There are times when a broken relationship may mentally effect you, so much that you need an external help. Help in the form of a counselor or a doctor. There is no harm and one should not feel ashamed about it because it can happen to anybody, it's just a state of mental depression. Moreover, you should be proud that you made this decision, as you wanted to live a healthy and peaceful life.

You should be aware of this fact that on the first date using phrases like "my therapist was just telling me" or "that topic just came up in my last counseling session" may send strong negative signals to your date. Your date might be mistaken about the fact that you are clear headed and you are still healing the wounds of your previous relationship.

In short on your first date, say bye to your ex, take minimum or no calls or messages and also, say good bye to your therapist for a while. You will kick start your relationship and this will only improve your chances of meeting your date again.